Your bags are packed and the entire family is eager to visit Grandma. She is really a remarkable lady. At 85 she still is living in her own home alone. She likes it this way and has made it very clear that she never wants to move.
The visit reveals that Grandma sounds much better on the phone. The reality is quite different. You see, it's easy for her to put on a good front during your ten minute telephone conversation. But, it can all unravel during a three day visit.
Now what do you do?
This is not an uncommon scenario. It's often at holiday time that families find themselves making decisions about a loved one's care and future. Frequently, because of time constraints, it feels rushed and no one is comfortable with the outcome.
Most seniors and families that I have worked with often say, "I wish we would have planned for this." Or, "we should have discussed this before, taken some tours, and interviewed caregivers so that these important decisions would have already been made."
That sage advice is right on target. Don't wait until a holiday visit or for something tragic to happen to face the facts about caregiving. Do your homework now and most importantly, involve the senior in the fact finding and decision making process.
Consider involving a senior care professional in your discussions. He/she can offer objective guidance, facilitate conversations, set up tours and much more.
Here's to planning in 2012,