When we care for a family member, we do so out of love and often to give back to a loved one who has cared for us or come to our aid. This is often the case when a child cares for their parent.
Unfortunately, what starts out as a loving gesture over time can become a point of contention. Recently, I spoke with a daughter who decided it was time to bring in some additional help. She said, "I've been doing my Mom's shopping for years and I try to take her to all of her doctor's appointments. But, now I am getting older too. This week, I'm recovering from the flu and I'm still tired. The other day when Mom called with her grocery list, I know I was very short with her. The minute I hung up the phone, I felt so badly about the way I treated her. I don't ever want my Mom to feel like she is a burden."
If you find yourself in a similar position, may I suggest you reach out to family members who have offered to assist in the past? Contact your Church, local Senior Center or Office on Aging. Explore non medical home care agencies such as Senior Concierge Services as part of the solution. In partnership with these organizations, you can resume the loving relationship that you treasure with your parent and create a much needed balance in your life.
Here's to making a difference in the lives of others,